Just beginning your journey in BDSM and not sure how (or where) to start?  No worries.  Check out our recommendations of books, groups and websites as well as the best clubs, events and other stores around Melbourne.

BOOKS

SCREW THE ROSES, SEND ME THE THORNS BY PHILIP MILLER AND MOLLY DEVON

If there is one comprehensive book on BDSM which stands out above the others, this is it! It is easy to read, puts Fun back into the BDSM scene, and uses plenty of illustrations.  This is the book we recommend the most in store for people starting out because it is so well written and so comprehensive, and it's a lighthearted take on the subject.

SHIBARI YOU CAN USE BY LEE HARRINGTON

Japanese rope bondage and erotic macramé look complicated and intimidating, but you can learn the basics of this beautiful and sexy art form today.  Bondage artist and educator Lee "Bridgett" Harrington takes you step-by-step through a variety of concepts and ties, giving you the tools to make aesthetically rewarding rope work.

 

THE NEW BOTTOMING BOOK BY JANET W HARDY AND DOSSIE EASTON

Almost a decade ago, the first `Bottoming Book` taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming - being a submissive, masochist, slave, `boy` or `girl,` or other BDSM recipient - is as much an art as topping.  Now, the completely updated revised `New Bottoming Book` gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom! 

THE NEW TOPPING BOOK BY JANET W HARDY AND DOSSIE EASTON

Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first `Topping Book.` Now, in addition to the sage advice and good humor that made the first edition a classic, the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in recent years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of `lifestyle` relationships, ensuring our own and our partners` safety, and more.

 

THE ETHICAL SLUT BY DOSSIE EASTON AND JANET W HARDY 

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle.

THE MISTRESS MANUAL BY MISTRESS LORELEI

In 1994, The Mistress Manual was born as a simple pink guidebook self-published by an experienced dominant woman. She moved on to other efforts, and the book fell out of print - much to the disappointment of thousands of eager submissive men and dominant women. Now, Greenery Press has brought this classic back to life in an updated new edition.

 

WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE IS KINKY BY DOSSIE EASTON 

Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or your boss…. If someone you love has a sexual kink and you want to know more about what that means to them and how you can deal with what it means to you, this book is for you.

PLAYING WELL WITH OTHERS BY LEE HARRINGTON AND MOLLENA WILLIAMS

While plenty of other books explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book devoted to kink culture - the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community.  Both former titleholders and international educators, Harington and Williams are an unbeatable pair of “sexual sherpas” with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom.

 

RADICAL ECSTASY BY DOSSIE EASTON

For millennia, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. In Radical Ecstasy, bestselling BDSM/sexuality authors Easton and Hardy document their own journeys into the transcendent realm of kink.  

FAMILY JEWELS: A GUIDE TO MALE GENITAL PLAY AND TORMENT BY HARDY HABERMAN

CBT is a BDSM activity that either makes men cringe with fear or lights up their faces with delight. This book is a 'guide' to this form of play with excellent info about the following topics: basic male anatomy, negotiation and safewords, play benefits and risks involved, safe sex play and cleaning CBT toys, and also descriptions of various CBT toys.

 

SM101 BY JAY WISEMAN

With chapters on everything from partner-seeking to afterplay, including step-by-step guides to bondage, spanking, flagellation, roleplay, erotic torment and much more, Jay Wiseman's SM 101 has taught the fundamentals of safe, exciting SM to tens of thousands of people of all genders and orientations!



EVENTS, GROUPS, SOCIAL CLUBS, VENUES AND SHOPS AROUND MELBOURNE

A WEEK OF LEATHER (MEN ONLY)

A Week of Leather is a huge celebration of leather and leather culture which runs every August at The Laird Hotel, just around the corner from Eagle Leather.  The week is packed full of events including the Laird Leatherman Competition, Jock Party and Code Black as well as classes and other events.

CHAINS

Chains is a regular fetish night near the CBD in Melbourne running once every two months.  It is the perfect introductory event for newbies, with people on hand to introduce you to the scene and make you feel welcome.  Chains is predominantly a social gathering with specific areas to cater for those who would like to have a play.

 

CLUB 80 (MEN ONLY)

Club 80 is an incredible venue in Collingwood servicing gay and bisexual men.  It is a cruise club which also has areas to surf the net, socialise, watch movies and do whatever you want.  The venue is a huge labrynth with stacks of hidden areas, nooks and crannies.  They hold regular fetish events focused on specific fetishes (nudity, golden showers, fisting) and are also open every night of the week. Club80 is also the home of Eagle Leather's Fantastic: The Party and the legendary Trough X parties.

FANTASTIC: THE PARTY

Fantastic is an intoxicating mix of part dance party, part play party, as organised by Eagle Leather at the incredible Club 80 dungeon once a year. Our first party almost sold out and was an undeniable success, an explosion of colour and creativity and a party where all the individual tribes of Melbourne came together to celebrate dance, colour and community under one roof.  The second was even bigger.  We have just announced the third Fantastic Party!  This one is going to blow your mind.

 

HARES & HYENAS

Hares is an extensive queer bookshop, cafe and bar in the heart of Fitzroy.  They also hold heaps of events and workshops on everything from BDSM and polyamory to queer themes and poetry/spoken word forums. Owners Crusader and Roland are local heroes, having catered to (and created a haven for) the queer community for over 25 years.

THE LAIRD HOTEL

The Laird is Australia’s longest running men-only gay hotel, catering to the leather, bear and alternative crowd, open seven nights a week with unique accommodation. A Melbourne Icon, The Laird caters to a wide range of men, and it’s a great place to meet up with locals and visitors from around the world.

 

MELBOURNE ROPE DOJO

Melbourne Rope Dojo has been founded to teach authentic Japanese Shibari and Kinbaku as practiced in Japan.  The head instructor at the dojo is Scott, one of the most experienced practitioners of shibari outside of Japan. Scott has both performed and taught within Australia and internationally in Japan.  The dojo offers regular classes for all experience levels.

OZ KINK FEST

An annual event, Melbourne's Oz Kink Fest is 10 days on the fetish calendar you don’t want to miss.  It all begins with Fetish Expo, a day of fetish shopping and entertainment followed by a play party.  Throughout the week the events continue, then the festival wraps up with two more huge parties and weekend workshops held by local and international presenters.

 

PROVOCATION

Provocation is a regular monthly event in the city with more of a focus on play and performance.  Running often over two levels, there are many separate play areas including a medical area, crosses, cages, spanking benches and the stage, plus multiple bars and social areas.

SPIT 'N' POLISH (MEN ONLY)

Held at the men-only Laird Hotel on Wednesdays, Spit N Polish is possibly one of the longest running weekly leather and fetish nights in the world. Dark beats, buzz cuts & boot shine create a cruisy atmosphere, and the strict dress code ensures an intimate, open & comfortable environment for those passionate about the lifestyle they have chosen. 

 

KINK FRIENDLY DOCTORS AND PROFESSIONALS

PRAHRAN MARKET CLINIC

Prahran Market Clinic is a General Practice clinic specialising in HIV/STIs, Psychologists, Physiotherapy, Massage, Naturopathy. There are several doctors who are comfortable tackling BDSM related issues at this clinic, including Sven Strecker, Tek Lim, Norman Roth and Beng Eu.

CYNDI DARNELL

Cyndi is a leading sex and relationship expert, offering sex therapy and counselling, couples’ coaching and informative and entertaining workshops and public speaking. She has over 15 years experience as a trusted facilitator of personal relationships, wellbeing and intimacy skills.

EQUINOX

Equinox Gender Diverse Health Service offers bulk billing General Practice services to the trans and gender diverse community. They have created this space with the community to help reduce the barriers to the health and well being that TGD people deserve.

HAMPSTED DENTAL

Hampsted Dental is a gay friendly and kink friendly dentistry based in West Melbourne. If you ever get caught in a sticky dental situation and don't want to field questions from dentists who won't understand your answers when you give them, perhaps it's time to give these guys a go!

PIERCING HQ

If you are looking for piercings, head down to see our friends Bella and Paulus at Piercing HQ who have been in the BDSM scene forever and specialise in all types of piercings including genital. They will also autoclave your sounding kits to keep them hygienically clean.

PRONTO!

Pronto! has been designed to specifically cater for gay men and other men who have sex with men.  Pronto! is staffed by those who know you best! Pronto! offers free confidential raiped HIV and syphilis testing.

 

FETISH COMMUNITY WEBSITES

FETLIFE

Where Australia and the world’s kinky communities meet online - think facebook for kinky people.  Try one of the many popular australian groups to find people with similar interests, keep up with what events, munches and skillshares are on and make new friends.

RECON (MEN ONLY)

Recon is a hook up site for gay and bisexual men with an interest in leather, rubber, BDSM and kink.

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